May 22, 2007
Date: 27th May 2007
Place: Singapore National Stadium
There will be free shuttle bus from Kallang Mrt station to the stadium.
Anyone interested to go, let me know...I am finding pple to go together....
But, the details of the shuttle service not out yet, will check back again...
More details see: http://www.prayforsingapore.org.sg/as_spore.html
May 17, 2007
There are three principles that we should understand well before committing to any
romantic relationship. If you're already in a relationship, studying these principles
intimately and practicing them will help ensure a lasting, satisfying relationship.
Unrealistic expectations are usually what drive a couple apart, so the first principle to
understand is that your partner does not owe you your happiness. This may sound strange
because why else would we want to enter relationships if not to find happiness?
Sure, we should derive joy from our relationships but our partner should not bear the duty
of giving us joy. Joy should be the spontaneous consequence of two people sharing feelings
of love for each other, not the result of one party constantly striving to fulfill the
When we expect our partner to make us happy, we set up opportunities for failure, and each time our partner fails to meet our demands, we lose respect and affection for him or her. Besides, love doesn't mean consistently giving in to our demands. And love doesn't mean always making us happy. What gives our joy may not always be in our best interests. And love can sometimes mean hardship and pain.
The second principle for fulfilling relationships is to love your partner for who they
are. Don't love a fantasy version of them you hope will emerge in the future. Many people
enter a relationship thinking that in time, their partners will change, but this often
doesn't happen. Your partner entered the relationship believing that this is what you fell
in love with. He or she doesn't see any reason to change.
Loving your partner for who they are also means accepting their flaws, or what you deem to
be flaws. Each person has attractive qualities as well as some habits or characteristics
we may not find so beguiling. But we should love our partners in spite of the qualities
wedon't appreciate as much as the others. There is no perfect lover, like there is no
perfect gadget. You're always going to have to trade off certain features for other ones
you find more suited to you. And when you run into conflict over those undesirable
features, your love for the whole product should be more than enough to make you overlook
the flaws and still embrace your partner. So ask yourself "If my partner upsets me, will I
be able to look past the words and actions and still love the person?"
The third and final principle is to love and respect yourself as much as you love and
respect your partner. This is because if you feel inadequate compared to your partner, you
might become obsessed with fulfilling his or her needs and neglect your own. Over time,
your partner will learn to take you for granted and you will no doubt begin to feel like
you got the short end of the stick.
Maintaining fulfilling relationships is no easy job, but understanding and practising
these three principles should help you a great deal.
May 14, 2007
A person that made me cry even in the middle of the night...We are able to have happy holidays together but...time will not be able to turn back.
I have always ask people to forgive others that have hurt them deeply. But, it is easy to say than to do. Forgive the one that has done and said words that have hurt me so deeply? Forget the sad and heartbroken memories that I once had...how?
Let God...I believe as time goes by, that open and deep wounds of our hearts will be filled by God's love, peace and joy, to heal by him. If we let God. Let God comes into our life and stays in our inner heart...
Ephesians 4:31-32: "Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."